Finding Hope

Parenting Challenging Children

Boundaries and Acceptance

| February 27, 2013

When I think about relational safety with someone who is experiencing intense internal shame, I think about boundaries and acceptance. I’ve blogged about boundaries before. Usually people that experience this kind of shame have had their own boundaries, physically or emotionally, violated. It makes it very difficult for them to regulate their own or respect [...]

Relational Safety

| February 25, 2013

I’ve talked about this negative lens that V views the world through. It tells her that she is unlovable, that she isn’t enough. It invokes feelings of helplessness and rage. It is full of fear and avoidance. It treats others badly. It doesn’t ask for help. It feels unworthy. It is shame. We all have [...]

| February 16, 2013

“I’m beginning to accept there’s something beautiful in being imperfectly me, like the woman who carried water in a cracked pot everyday… and because the water was leaking, she created a path of flowers everywhere she walked.”-rachel awes This reminds me how often we are quick to define ourselves and others by their imperfections. When [...]

No More Living Small

| February 2, 2013

I’ve become a TED talk junkie. It’s my escape when I need a break from studying. A powerful message packed into twenty minutes. You will always walk away with something. One of those “somethings” was “Fake it until you become it”. What I loved about this was it replaced the “Fake it til you make [...]

What It Looks Like From Here

| February 1, 2013

Healing can only come in the context of a relationship. Being that “other person” in a relationship with someone w/ a disorganized attachment is at times grueling and yet, at times so profoundly rewarding in the moments of connection. Caregivers aren’t adequately prepared nor supported for the demands. It seems like professionals are just now [...]